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Dale Carnegie is most well known for his courses on interpersonal skills and his book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” He’s published a few other books as well ranging on topics from anxiety, leadership, and public speaking. The following is taken from one of the introductory chapters in his book, “How to Develop Self-Confidence And Influence People By Public Speaking.”

Public speaking is an interesting subject to study. A lot of people have anxiety about presenting, and speaking to an audience. Carnegie explains this fear simply as a product of ignorance and uncertainty. He then prescribes a formula on how to remove this fear:

“[Why do people have this fear?] A lack of confidence. And what causes that? It is the result of not knowing what you can really do. And not knowing what you can do is caused by a lack of experience. When you get a record of successful experience behind you, your fears will vanish.”

Sounds dead simple and common sensical. Successful experiences >> Knowing what you are capable of >> Confidence. But how many people take such a hardline approach to building confidence in themselves in this manner? Whether its with public speaking, acting, or any other skill. How do you start having successful experiences? Well, you start with unsuccessful experiences. You turn those into learning moments and follow up with a few successful experiences. Soon enough, you’ll have enough breadth of experience to make educated and accurate inferences about your future performance. When you have to go up on stage, make a pitch to investors, or take the game winning shot, you’ll do so with a frame of reference that adequately defines all possible outcomes. By building a relatively stable track record of success, you’ll become better at turning haphazard circumstances into the type of ones you prefer and can control.

I think the trouble is starting down a path and knowing you must experience the possibility of failure to get to the other side. As a novice, whether its learning programming, painting, or how to sell – you tend to have a idealized and romanticized view of the nature of things in the domain you’re building skills in. The worst possible thing would be to experience repeat failure at the start of it, and shatter any possible notions you might have held about that specific domain. But failure is likely at the beginning. And I think its better to embrace it as a phase, rather than an indicator of ability.

Dave Chappelle on Inside the Actors Studio had a specifically relevant story. He talks about the first time he bombed at the famous APOLLO comedy club:

I still remember that boo. I had never been booed off stage before. I just remember looking out and seeing everybody booing. Everybody! Even old people. Who boo’s a child pursuing his dreams?! This is the meanest crowd in the world! Then that siren went off and the dude came out tap dancing. Sandman! I wanted to choke the shit out of him! And that was the best thing that ever happened to me, because before that time, I had never bombed…let alone get boo’d off stage. And bombing was horrifying! Nobody wants to get boo’d off stage!… But that night was liberating because I failed so far beyond my wildest nightmares of failing… and after that, I was fearless.

One of the best lessons I have taken from this is to learn indiscriminately from every experience, no matter if the lessons come in the form of success or failure. All you really need is to build on those experiences. It doesn’t matter if you have 10 failures in a row and 1 success, or failure after success after failure after success, etc. Each lesson must have extracted from it points for improving future performance and in the case of mistakes, the wisdom not repeat the same one again. I believe this is the best possible human learning algorithm you can have.

Sebastian Marshall made an awesome post recently, titled “Steps to Achievement: The Pitfalls, Costs, Requirements, and Timelines.” I’m actually going to set aside time to read it over again a few times and internalize it, because its beaming with great notions and strategies. Many of the links he provides in the post are also quite helpful.

Many popular careers have a linear path. For example, becoming a doctor or lawyer is a very streamlined process. There’s schooling, followed by work experience/research, followed by admission tests (mcat/lsat) and application process, then professional schooling, then internship/residency, and on and on. It’s all very organized and structured. If you have chosen a career or goal that doesn’t have such a linear trajectory, I think Sebastian’s post is a very valuable exercise to do.

But I think there’s also an underlying point in this post, and that is this: if you’re smart and hard working, you can get to where you want to go in the most efficient manner possible. I imagine the process as being half scientist, and half ship captain. You have to mesh the process of exploration, discovery, fact checking, and theorem proving with the pragmatics of steering, managing short-term and long-term issues, risk management, and ultimately getting from A to B in one piece.

One thing I’ve noticed in this list is, it doesn’t call for supernatural abilities. I can’t imagine anyone not being able to apply these set of thought patterns to their circumstance, no matter what their particular talents. A fitting quote is one from architect Joshua Prince-Ramus, of REX Architecture (known for Seattle Public Library):

Architecture is not created by individuals. The genius sketch… is a myth. Architecture is made by a team of committed people who work together, and in fact, success usually has more to do with dumb determination than with genius.

I think its the same for individual goals as it is for architecture. It has more to do with dumb determination than statistically high levels of IQ, or some particular talent. Sebastian’s post, and the linked posts to Less Wrong create a great framework for anyone to get started on their goals. The careers listed above and other professional careers usually utilize a top-down approach, breaking goals into discrete steps (schooling -> experience -> specialized schooling -> experience).  For goals that are more open-ended problems (with many solutions and paths to those solutions), these posts identify the major base elements for creating an emergent process you can continually fine tune as you progress on your goals.

I’d also like to add two points that work for me as well:

Rethink First Principles: If your goal is A, you’ll probably become aware of the standard/common ways people before you have reached A. This will seem like the most pragmatic method for getting there yourself. But sometimes, it is helpful to rethink if the common strategy is most efficient for your particular situation/skillsets.

A few examples: If your goal was to become a Value Investor, you might recognize the way most people break in is to get into a top undergraduate B-school -> work in investment banking for two years -> get an MBA from a top school, preferably one that focuses on value investing (Columbia) -> get a job at a value fund. Or to copy someone like Warren Buffett’s path, which many people try to do.  One of the most interesting examples of someone questioning first principles in this arena was Mike Burry, of Scion Capital, who was featured in Michael Lewis’s “The Big Short.” He was a medical resident when he started investing. He realized that even though Warren Buffett is the most successful value investor in history, his approach wouldn’t work for Burry. It was this same awareness that led him to utilized credit-default swaps, venturing out of the ‘typical’ area of value investors, which generated his astounding returns.

Another example is one I found on reddit. thedevilyousay makes an interesting comment, on the topic of someone wanting to leave law school for the pursuit of film school:

One of the alumni of my law school created (and is the operating mind behind) one of the most successful television shows of the past decade. His advice is to be smart and to put yourself out there. I heard a quip once about the fallacy of people thinking they need film/TV school to get into the industry. I can’t remember what his exact words were, but it was something along the lines of “That’s what you do when you know you can’t hack it.”

I also went to school with a friend whose goal was always to be in film. He never wanted to be a lawyer. He went to law school because he suspected it would better position him in the industry. He focused on entertainment law, criminal law (for the Hollywood factor), and did some tax (the movie industry is very tax driven), alternative dispute resolution (the problem-solving factor), and negotiation (obvious). He is now arguably the most successful out of our whole group. He is a writer primarily, but his competency is so apparent that he’s also tasked with more executive roles with every project he does.

The last example is of my own. I’m currently in attempts to break into an industry where hard science PhD’s are the standard. It is a relatively new industry and academia is not yet the place of expertise and the cutting edge. After speaking with multiple folks who work in the industry, I’ve realized pursuing a PhD (which would take 5+ years) would not be the most efficient use of my time. I’d be able to break in, at a lower level, and work my way up and in those 5 years, be in a much better position. This has made my goals for the next few months much more terse and dense with skills I’d have to pick up. I have given up the better paved and safer path for one that is riskier, but of higher efficiency and lower opportunity cost.

Avoiding Standard Error: Being a sloth and unreliable create such an asymmetrical negative payoff for what little upsides they bring you. So does fostering addiction or dependency, letting impulsions go unchecked, or being envious or resentful. So does not studying or taking seriously your susceptibility to the natural cognitive biases we all have. If you set out to eliminate standard error, or things that can inherently cloud your judgement, you may realize the low-hanging fruit thats occasionally up for grabs that others might overlook.

I hope these two points can add in a modest way to the points linked above. But to reiterate what I like about this approach is, its quite amateur, and I mean that in a positive way. It admits to a lack of professionalism and polish, and nor does it constrain you to one particular set of goals. Its simply a set of tools you should include in your repertoire as a trail blazer.

For the past few months, I have been logging my food intake and workout routines. I didn’t start out with any major goals other than to form a base-line for my nutrition and fitness. I’d gradually set goals after finding a routine I can work with. After the first month, I’d change my diet/excercise every two weeks. Gradually, my diet became stricter, and the workouts more exhaustive. But my consistency went up. Less off days, cheat days, no more missed workouts. I couldn’t figure out why it was easier, when it should have been harder, and why I was having trouble at the start, in retrospect, the easiest part. But I think I have found out why:

I’m going to steal the adage of Hanlon’s Razor, and apply it here: Never attribute to discipline that which is adequately explained by habit. (Hanlon’s Razor states: Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.)

I habitually goal-set at certain intervals and it always bothered me that I’d fall of the bandwagon on certain number of them. I’d always ascribe this to a lack of discipline. Discipline being a placeholder for the idea of innate iron will, of being an executing machine. We don’t view habit the same way, even good productive habits. Habits are considered more automatic, involuntary, and perhaps even less exciting.

But what started out as goals to gain x lbs of muscle, or lose x lbs of fat, unwittingly turned into a building out of habits.  I found it much easier to focus on building good habits, rather than trying to achieve particular results. I think part of the allure was how efficacy was measured. With most goals (losing X lbs, getting job at company A, XXXX gre score),  your progress represents a continuous function over time, and it isn’t always ascending in lockstep with the amount of effort you put forth. Anyone who weighs themselves daily will realize that. But building habits is more of a binary process, did you do X or not today? There’s only yes or no. It’s easier to build a row of successes in a discrete manner. Otherwise you have to imagine climbing a staircase with varying tread and risers.

Of all the high achievers I have known personally or have read about, no one talks about their forming of good habits. Their success is always presented as a byproduct incredible discipline. But how many of these people cultivated, over years and years,  productive habits that eventually payed off vs. posses some rare levels of discipline?

What skills bring the greatest ROI? What skills are widely applicable to all persons, independent of one’s goals, circumstance, age, culture, and level of wealth? While practically no skill can guarantee the promise of success (whatever your definition may be), there are skills that can certainly minimize misfortune. For example, someone lacking the faculty of reason will have a terrible time navigating through the natural vicissitudes of life. They will misattribute behavior and reach false conclusions. Any event of coincidence can solidify wrong beliefs. Rationality, therefore, is a valuable skill to develop – useful in pretty much any situation imaginable.

Other skills that can aid intelligent decision-making are scientific rigor, intellectual humility, emotional intelligence, and good temperament. This isn’t an exhaustive list, but I’ve listed enough to recognize a pattern. I’ll try to go more in-depth of each in a future post, but the way in which they relate is they are abstractions of literal processes. Abstract ideas have more breadth than literal ones. Scientific rigor, for example, is an ethos of the hard sciences. Its adoption in management theory, economics, the social and life sciences, and investments, intensified the rate of discovery and propagation of new ideas in those fields.

Skills with high ROI classify as those skills that are most useful most of the time. They have breadth. They most accurately (but maybe not perfectly) describe the way the world works. The skills that require success may not be the same the same skills that prevent you from failing. Likely, the skills you need to be successful are narrow (deep technical expertise). And the skills you need to keep from failing are broad (always considering facts, avoiding groupthink, hubris).  I like the idea of keeping the goals of succeeding and not failing separate. “How can I be successful?” and “What will cause me to fail?” identify different parameters to address. Keeping both in mind may just be the way to stay in the game the longest.

James “Buster” Douglas (born April 7, 1960) is a former undisputed world heavyweight boxing champion who caused arguably the most shocking upset in boxing history when he knocked out undefeated champion Mike Tyson on February 11, 1990 in Tokyo, Japan. At the time, Tyson was considered to be the best boxer in the world and arguably one of the most feared heavyweight champions in history due to his utter domination of the division. The Mirage Casino in Las Vegas, the only Las Vegas casino to make odds on the fight, had Douglas as a 35 to 1 underdog for the fight.

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